Happy Anniversary, Dad and Mom!! 31 years and still going strong! Thank you for being willing to stick together in good times and bad times! Thank you for giving me the opportunity to grow up in a home that wasn’t torn apart by selfish desires. Thank you for showing me that no matter what happens, teamwork always works! Thank you for being a team in raising myself and David and Sue in a Christian home where we were taught to love the Lord! I look up to you both and love you both!!
What God wants and what our spouse wants are the same. They want our love and time to show we care for them.
About 2 months ago, our church started a new Sunday School class for young couples, the class is called The Faithbuilders. We use I Corinthians 4:2 as our class verse. It says “Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.” The basis of this class is that spouses be faithful to one another, that Christians are faithful to God, and in general to be a faithful person, someone that is reliable and dependable in everything they do.
In the short time that my wife and I have been attending this class, we have learned a lot. We have both come to realize that there are certain things that we each need to work on in our personal lives. We are thankful that we have a teacher who tells us like it is, straight from the Bible, even in a Sunday School class….this is why Sunday School is still important by the way!
Today in class, Bro. Pete brought the best lesson so far in my opinion. He has been teaching from Ephesians 5:22-28. “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.”
These are great verses on how the husband and wife relationship is supposed to work along with the church and Christ relationship. We could go into detail about these verses but I am just going to share the 3 points that were given in class today, along with how it applies to the husband and wife relationship.
- Does what God wants, really matter? Christian ask yourself this question and than grade your past week of actions against this question. I look at my own life and I see and I know where I have fallen short in my life in fulfilling what God wants! Now ask yourself this question, Does what my spouse wants, really matter? I am sure that we would answer yes to both of these questions, because that is what we are supposed to answer. I was sitting in class today asking myself this and i was convicted to be honest. I would like to say yes, that what my wife wants, does matter. But I know where I fail in that area.
- How far will I go to give God what He wants? Do we only give God what is convenient to us or do we give Him what He wants no matter what it cost us? That is a convicting question right there! Too many Christians only give Him what we can afford to give Him. He doesn’t want half of our life, God wants all of our life. In marriage ask yourself this, How far will I go to give my spouse what they want? Do you only give your spouse what they want, when it is convenient for you? Are you willing to go to the ends of the earth to give your spouse what they want?
- What am I willing to give up to give God what He wants? Is there something in your life that you could give up to give God more? We all have our hobbies and desires that are holding us back from giving God what He wants, what are you willing to give up? In your relationship, ask yourself What am I willing to give up to give my spouse what they what? Are you willing to go without something that you want, to give your spouse something they want? We live in a selfish society that even our relationship with our spouse suffers from it. Put your spouse’s wants before your wants.
These are just some simple questions that can better our relationship with God and also our relationship with our spouse.